Finding therapy for relationships, or personal experiences while being a part of the kink community can be a bit daunting.
Often therapists are disapproving, or worse titillated.
I have heard many times that individuals wish they could find a safe space to discuss their deep concerns with someone who won’t flinch at their lifestyle.
As a kink supporting therapist I move beyond normalizing into affirming and celebrating the self-knowing strengths that kink offers people. Kink can be discussed as a part of a whole person. Kink awarenesses and roles can be leveraged to discuss emotional and relationship concerns. Awareness of experiential learning and dynamic sensory engagement is not discounted as part of self knowing.
I am also able to hold space for individuals with ambivalence or self shaming processes that are creating maladaptive discomfort.
Whether you are playing with power difference, rope, or impact, I am able to hear it, look past the initial reaction, and bring your moments of self knowing into the broader context of process therapy.